Am I the only one who heard someone say “You’ve Changed” or “You are acting brand new”? Whoever spoke these words to you is really implying, “I like the old you”!
I personally dealt with this when I legally changed my name from Jamie to Ayo (Means Joy) several years ago. Family, friends and loved ones had a hard time getting used to the “New ME”! My name change was a divine encounter with God. A close friend asked me one day what did my name mean and I had no clue. After researching my name and discovering it came from the root of Jacob (meaning Supplanter) I prayed and asked God for a new name. My Father-In Love (In Nigeria) prayed about the name and finally came to “Ayomikun” (meaning: YOUR JOY IS FULL). God said because of all the pain you suffered, I am about to release the fullness of Joy into your life!
What a great story uh? Well many did not adjust to the change. Some family and friends continued to call me “Jamie” and refused to acknowledge my name change. What was the core issue? Was it really about me changing my name to Ayo or those around me adjusting to change?
When you make changes in your life to improve your quality of living (eating better, living better or just being happier) the impact is felt throughout those involved in your life. For example, if you change the way you speak or think, this will change the way you interact with people you’ve known for years. Why? Because they will have to change the way they interact with you.
After being around someone for years, they pretty much can predict your responses or actions. But once you make a decision to change, it shakes them up and they have a hard time adjusting. It is very unrealistic or anyone to expect you to stay the same.
Just because you stepped out of your comfort zone to make changes, it doesn’t mean those around you are ready to change. Often times they are not focused on the actual changes but the act of change.
You’ve changed really means, “You are becoming different and I do not know how to deal with it. I am not ready for change and I want the old you back”. Do not compromise your decision to improve your life! Never allow anyone to control your changes. If they try to control your change, then you need to let them go! If they love you, then they will love your change and be supportive!
In life, changes happen and we must deal with it! Many of us have come to a point in life to accept that change is inevitable. Embrace the new you and never apologize for changing into the beautiful butterfly God has created you to be!
2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV
(17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.)